THE MYTH OF HAVING IT ALL TOGETHER

Why Perfection Isn’t the Goal —and Never Was

There’s a story many of us live inside without realizing it: the myth that having it “all together” is the goal.

It’s the version of you who checks every box—successful, organized, calm, and clear. She never second-guesses herself. She doesn’t melt down in her car after a long day. She doesn’t spiral in self-doubt or feel disconnected from her body, her voice, or her truth.

And she’s not real.

The truth is: wholeness isn’t about having it all together. It’s about allowing all parts of you to belong—even the unsure, messy, or questioning parts.

Many of the women I work with are high-achieving and deeply capable. They’re the ones others go to for answers. From the outside, they look “put together.” But on the inside, there’s often a quiet ache. A sense that something’s missing. A longing to stop performing and start being.

This is where the real work begins.

The Five & Six process was born from this very myth—the myth that we need to be more in order to be whole. In truth, we don’t need more layers. We need fewer masks. Less noise. More space to hear what’s been whispering underneath all along.

So if you find yourself tired of holding it all together, you’re not broken. You’re ready.

Let me know if you'd like a call to explore this kind of work—or if you're ready, check out the upcoming Five & Six workshop dates here (Scottsdale, Arizona):

August 16th * September 13th